Live the life you have always imagined.
Positive Psychology has a wealth of research on the science of happiness. Currently, psychology is concentrated on helping clients back into a "neutral state" or a "functioning state," Positive Psychology helps move clients from a neutral state into a state of happiness and fulfillment.
I have worked with a variety of clients including individuals from non-profit and Fortune 500 companies to help them: achieve personal goals, career changes, accept loss, overcome relational issues, set firm boundaries and overcome life obstacles.
Thoreau once said that he came to the woods because he wanted to live deliberately and see what it had to teach, and not when he came to die, to discover that he had not lived.
To modernize that quote and apply that to today’s society - the ultimate goal for most of us is happiness. A lot of us confuse success, or money, or love with happiness itself. People think, “Oh, if I just could get that promotion, or someone to love, or new car or chic shoes, then I’m going to be happy.” What people don’t realize is that the formula is reversed, society has led you to believe that happiness is a byproduct of those things, but in fact it’s the opposite. Research has shown happy people make more money, have more sex, and have more success than those who are not.
Moreover, the answer you are looking for isn’t just happiness. In a research study about life satisfaction, researchers categorized people into three groups. The first group live a pleasant life, which consists of cheery people that find pleasure in normal everyday things such as: sex, going out to eat, or buying a pair of shoes. The second group consists of people that live a life of engagement. This group consists of people who achieve a state of “flow,” where they lose track of time because of 100% engagement in what they do. They describe the feeling of "flow" as being one with the music, or losing themselves in parenting, or sports. The third group is people that live a meaningful life – where people utilize their strengths daily to do something greater in society, to be of service to something much larger than themselves. At the beginning of the study, the researchers hypothesized that ignorance is bliss, that people who live the pleasant life have higher life satisfaction than those who are engaged or living a life of meaning. But, what the researchers were astonished to find was that people who are living a life of engagement or meaning have far more life satisfaction than those who live a pleasant life. The key finding is that the pursuit of pleasure has no bearing on life satisfaction.
To go back to Thoreau’s quote – “to discover that I had not lived” – that is what a life without engagement, or meaning or pleasure is all about. It is a life of emptiness. So my goal is to get you from where you are right now to where you want to be in 5, 10, 20, 40 years. We start the journey with an end in sight. Consider this question: what do want to do before you die?